AITA for not sharing my food with my in-laws
Growing up with two sisters, she was no stranger to sharing every little thing, especially food, never quite experiencing the luxury of eating just for herself.
Now, living with her husband and his mother, the old wounds of having to constantly give up what she cherished flare up every time he offers her the food she bought, blurring the boundaries she desperately wants to set.
When she finally craved something special—stuffed shells from a local Italian place—and decided to protect her small joy, it sparked an immediate clash.
His dismissive attitude and refusal to respect her need for personal space exposed a deeper struggle between her past sacrifices and the present demand for her own autonomy.
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The original poster is clearly struggling with a conflict between her deeply ingrained habit of sharing, stemming from her upbringing, and the very different expectation set by her husband regarding personal property, specifically food.
The core issue revolves around the husband overriding the poster's autonomy over a meal she specifically purchased for herself, leading to feelings of being disregarded and left hungry.
The debate centers on whether the poster was justified in protecting her limited portion of food against her mother-in-law's expectation, or if her refusal to share, labeled as "stinginess" by her husband, violated the expected generosity within a shared living arrangement. Where does the boundary for personal food consumption lie when living with extended family?