Should I (25F) tell my husband (26M) that if he doesn’t lose weight and get his health in order I want a divorce?
For ten years, their love stood unshaken, a bond forged in youth and unwavering devotion.
But beneath the surface of their shared life, a silent storm brewed—Mark’s health spiraling as his weight soared, dragging with it the shadows of hypertension, prediabetes, and sleep apnea.
Her heart aches not for the pounds, but for the man she sees slipping away, trapped in a battle he refuses to fight. Despite her endless efforts and his fleeting moments of hope, the relentless climb back to danger’s edge gnaws at their future.
Each missed medication, every ignored warning, is a thread unraveling the fabric of their tomorrow. The looming threat of a stroke or heart disease hangs heavy, turning love into a desperate plea for survival.
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The original poster (OP) is caught in a painful situation, torn between her deep, unconditional love for her husband and the serious, life-threatening health risks he is creating through inaction.
Her conflict centers on her inability to force him to take responsibility for his severe health issues, despite her efforts to support him with medication reminders, activity suggestions, and logistical help.
Given that the husband's refusal to manage his health directly endangers his future presence in the family, the central question is whether the OP is justified in issuing a strict ultimatum regarding his health compliance, or if setting such a boundary crosses into controlling behavior that could damage the relationship further.