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Posted by u/Quick_End_8012
14 hours ago

'AITA for laughing at a girl singing karaoke?' 'This is her main character moment.'

Written on mobile sorry about any format issues

So last weekend my (25F) boyfriend (27M) went out for a friends birthday to a karaoke place. Important to note it was one of the ones where you rent out a private booth, you can order food and drink there and there’s one karaoke machine for everyone to take turns singing, but most the time it’s just everyone singing at once.

It was a really good night, there were six of us in total and between us we all got relatively hammered. The song options they had were pretty limited to anything from the 80’s to the early 2010s and no one was taking super seriously.

One of the girls who we were with (I’ll call her Emma) has a crush on my boyfriend. They never dated and my boyfriend is (up until this story) clueless of her feelings. He doesn’t have a lot of confidence, is pretty shy and struggles at reading a room so has never really been able to tell at all despite how obvious Emma makes it.

Now it’s Emmas turn to sing and like I said, all tipsy at least. She starts singing Taylor Swifts You Belong With Me (for anyone who doesn’t know the title basically implies what the song is about: your girlfriend sucks and I’ve always loved you)

At first we all started singing along with her but the more serious and intense it got the less people were laughing and joining in and just staring at me, as if to see what I would do. And I didn’t do anything, I smiled and clapped at the end. Who cares? This is her Rachel Berry, main character moment and it wasn’t really hurting anyone.

My boyfriend looked mortified, I’ve never seen him look like he wanted to be swallowed by the ground more than in that moment. I figured this would be nothing more than a “I told you so” moment in the taxi ride home.

The awkwardness eases somewhat until it’s Emma’s turn again. She gets up and sings at my boyfriend again. The. Same. Song. We’re all just staring at her, dumbfounded. Meanwhile she’s staring at my boyfriend who’s holding my hand so tightly as though he’s afraid he’s going to float away. It’s so tense and weird and I can’t help it, I laugh.

Not a belly laugh but a quick loud “HA” before instantly clapping my hand over my mouth. Emma storms out mid song, one of our friends follows her and we get a text saying they’re not coming back to the party.

It’s been almost a week and I got a text last night in the group chat calling me a bully and a mean girl for laughing, not by Emma, but the friend who followed her out. But I don’t know if I am. Tbh I think I deserve a damn medal for sitting through the first song without saying anything.

TL;DR: I laughed at a girl who was serinading my boyfriend a second time with the same song.

Comments (129)

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u/BeMandalorTomad 5h ago

If one of my friends was actively making a play for my significant other in front of me, laughing would be the kindest response possible, even if it was as cringey as this.

Totally heartless toward you, totally tone deaf where your boyfriend is concerned, but truly and utterly cruel. At the heart of the matter, this person is trying to tell your boyfriend to leave you and be with them.

NTA, not by a long shot.

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u/Ok_Conversation9750 6h ago

So *you're* the bully and mean girl because you laughed at someone making a very obvious, public play for your boyfriend? Um, no. You showed amazing restraint. NTA and Emma and her pet flying monkey are delusional on so many levels. I wouldn't apologize - I'd flip that script immediately and tell her *you* expect and apology to you AND your bf for her desperate, pick me behavior.

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u/Beginning-Credit6621 1h ago

NTA considering how wildly inappropriate Emma's behavior was, extra points for the Rachel Berry reference. Hasn't this whole scenario been an actual scene in a different show, though?

Just about any other circumstances, laughing at someone doing karaoke is maximum-penalty AH - it shatters the delicate trust that everyone in the room relies on to sing freely without fear of ridicule. Yeah, your laugh was the final nail in the coffin for that party, but Emma's Swift reprise had killed it for you and your partner anyway, so you get a pass.

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u/Apart-Ad-6518 2h ago

NTA

"It’s so tense and weird and I can’t help it, I laugh."

The best response to have in the circumstances

"I got a text last night in the group chat calling me a bully and a mean girl for laughing"

What else were you supposed to do?

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u/susi_sa_ref 3h ago

NTA.

Emma is the mean one for ruining the happy atmosphere of the birthday celebration.

If I were you, I'd respond to the friend along these lines "You must have felt the secondhand embarrassment for you to say that. You are basically acknowledging how Emma's behavior that day weirded us out. Don't even pretend you didn't know Emma's intentions in doing that. If she disrespects me and makes my boyfriend uncomfortable, I'll give the same energy."

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u/Key-Veterinarian7061 7h ago

NTA. You did alright. Singing the same song twice is super weird and intentional. I don't see how anyone would view you as the AH here

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u/Artistic_Thought7309 6h ago

NTA. You have been pretty civil, most other girls would have caused a scene.

The friend who called you a bully and a mean girl has spoiled for everybody else in the group chat as it may be for others to feel they have to pick a side. I would suggest you respond, civilly, by saying you do not see you can have been a bully and a mean girl, and add that this is how much you would like to talk about that moment. Be prepared though, that the group may cease to exist as you know it due to how awkward this will be.

However, do not accept to be put under attack and cut your losses, if it comes to that.

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u/NobodyofGreatImport 4h ago

She's trying to steal your boyfriend, and she thinks she has the right to get offended because you laughed at her feeble attempt. Ridiculous. You're NTA.

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u/Techno_Core 2h ago

How dare you step on Emma's moment of trying to steal your bf! Have you no heart? /s

NTA

And big picture, Emma's lucky she just got a "Ha!"

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u/Fantastic-Bedroom208 7h ago

Well, your nicer than me, because I would have gotten up to the mic and straight up say “I’d like to apologize for that rendition of “you belong with me”, not because of her trying to serenade my BF in front of everyone, but because of the terrible singing” and now, I’d like to do my rendition of home wrecker by Gretchen Wilson.

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u/Perfect-Community262 7h ago

NTA

First time through? Dick move to laugh, if only because she has an element of deniability and you don't want to harsh everyone's vibe.
Second time through?? She's made it so obvious, you have every right to light her ass the hell up lol

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u/FindAriadne 3h ago

NTA but maybe she blacked out. Makes you act like a goldfish.

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u/emmylouanne 6h ago

NTA. The same song twice by the same person is a karaoke sin!

If she had went for a song on the same theme - Beautiful South Don't Marry her, Break up with your girlfriend, Ariana Grande, Take a chance on me Abba, or even more obvious Avril Lavigne's Girlfriend

INFO: what did you sing?

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u/KindlyCost2 7h ago

I just told this story to my girlfriend and she immediately asked why a bunch of people in their mid 20s are acting like teenagers (Emma and the friends enabling her to be exact). Definitely NTA.

Why are you even friends with her if she clearly doesn’t respect your relationship? It’s bad enough that she pines for your boyfriend, but maybe that would be acceptable if she kept that to herself and showed basic respect for your relationship. However, she actively wants to undermine your relationship and that’s not acceptable behaviour. This isn’t a healthy dynamic and is a friendship that should have ended already if it hasn’t yet.

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u/IndividualAcademic70 5h ago

NTA. Being a Swiftie and knowing the words forwards and backwards… oof. The first time can be chalked up to an awkward mistake and forgetting the meaning of the song, the second is deliberate. Sober or not her deeper feelings were clear. Check with your BF about his feelings about the situation, otherwise it isn’t your responsibility to make everyone feel okay here. 

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u/anonuser123999 6h ago

NTA. Your reaction was completely normal and reasonable.

I love the Glee reference lmao, because it really did remind me of Rachel 😂

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u/artofterm 2h ago

NTA. Sounds like saint-level patience all around, and I get that compared to your earlier flow with everyone else and her reaction and the separate friend's reaction, an awkward laugh slipping out must feel like AH behavior (especially because covering your mouth admits some level of guilt). But it's not that bad. She should've felt this way by the end of the first rendition--or, alternatively, kept feeling carefree--but she chose to make a scene.

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u/VinylHighway 1h ago

What does she expect from you? Support stealing your boyfriend ?

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u/Odd-Tangerine1630 5h ago

NTA, obviously. Emma is, though. I mean, who sings You Belong With Me twice when Girlfriend from Avril Lavigne is right there?!

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u/Annatolia 6h ago

NTA- Girl, I aspire to have your level of patience and grace! And laughing was probably the best response you could have given, considering your so-called friend ruined the party by being weird as hell and disrespectful of your relationship. I'm unsure of what her friend is smoking, but you definitely are not in the wrong here.

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