'AITA for leaving when I was asked to babysit forcing my dad's fiancée to cancel her plans?'

NTA. This is why your dad wanted you at home instead of your grandparents. They wanted a built in babysitter. They are takers and users. Since you’re out already, never go back, never give in. Sorry you’re going through this.

NTA, tell them that if they try to leave the kids with you against your will, you will call the police and CPS and declare the kids have been abandonned by them ( leaving kids with an unwilling sitter is considered abandonment by law)

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Pretty convenient, she moved in the same time as you, the perceived in-build-babysitter.

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Her sister can babysit if she wants prepare your exit !

No offense to you or your capabilities but what mother leaves a six month old infant and a three year-old for 6 hours with a 17-year-old boy who has no experience taking care of children? They both sound like huge AHs. And I believe legally your father is responsible for providing you food and shelter. You shouldn’t have to be earning your own way at age 17. I’m glad you left and hopefully you can stay with your grandparents and go NC with your father.

Even if he's awarded custody, that doesn't mean you are awarded babysitting duties. Watching over children is a huge responsibility. If I had kids I wouldn't want a halfhearted coerced baby sitter watching over them.

Quite the coincidence that she moved in around the same time you did. She really is a presumptuous little so and so.

Nta. Their kids. Their responsibility. 

NTA. What do you mean with needing to be self sufficient and pay for your own shit? Like, does that include food and such? If so then if he does bring it to court then you can use that against him as he's not just dodging child support, he's also making you pay for things that he's responsible for. So he'd be a moron if he tried bringing this to court.

You can leave and live at your grandparents now. Get your important documents together, move all your money to a bank your parents don't use, and grab stuff important to you. 

If your dad calls the police, tell them you're safe, you're with family, and you'll run away again. And that's assuming they bother, which they are unlikely to, because you're so close to 18.

If he tries to go to court, they'll laugh at him. By the time he could get an appointment to be in front of a judge, you're basically 18. 

Just get your stuff together and go to non-shitty family. 

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It never ceases to amaze me that woman decides to be with a deadbeat and reproduce with a deadbeat and then she tries to make her decision the abandoned child problem.

You're paying your own way, while being forced to live with this dude that was basically a sperm donor, and he expects you to see his family as yours and babysit the kids... well, at least he has big dreams, I guess.

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Do tell his girlfriend that it's nothing personal, but her partner is an absolute douche, so you will not be doing him or his posse any favors, if you for some reason have to go back.

And before having to go back, since you're having to pay for your own stuff, he is not providing basic necessities, so basically he is lacking, as a parents. I think custody court and CPS will have something to say about that.

At least you can use it as leverage.
'Do you want me to talk to CPS, about how I have to pay for everything myself, while you don't provide for me? Perhaps I'll tell them how you planned on abandoning your kids with a minor with zero experience with babysitting?'

NTA. They are not willing to make you feel welcome, be part of their family, support you at all, so why they hell do they think you'd help them out. They're jokes.

Idk the laws about where you live, but a lot of courts will take into account what someone your age would prefer in regards to living situation. If they're stricter, you've got a year left and you'll never have to look back again.

NTA. You are 17 years old. If your sperm donor decided he wanted to take it to court you would have more voice in your custody then he would. Go to your grandparents and tell him you're not going to live with him and if you really has a problem with that then you will be happy to see him lose in court. When it comes to custody Arrangements Once you turn 14 your voice carries more weight than most issues but certainly after 16 you basically get to decide where you live unless there's a safety issue.

NTA. You're 17, you can literally just move in with your grandparents if you want. No court is going to force you to move back.

I am sorry you're living this. Although if he takes you to court, you're old enough to decide with whom to live and then you can tell the judge that you work to support you. You can also tell the judge that your father's fiancee had a perfect stranger (whom she calls sister), come an insult you for refusing to babysit, after it's your only day off

No NTA.

NTA. All I can say is if you're in the US your father still owes child support. It should go to you if he doesn't want to pay it to your grandparents. So you need to say something to the family court and let them know he stopped making the payments but you've moved out. Might also want to miss the little tidbit that he was making you pay him to live with him basically pay him back the child support he had to pay your mother. That isn't legal. You're not 18 yet so he can't charge you rent.

But yeah your father wanted you to move in mainly so he didn't have to pay child support and having you there, built-in babysitter. That's exactly what they were thinking and then he took it even farther and said that you have to pay to live there and take care of yourself. Yeah he's a great guy.

" I am a minor and have never babysat small children. It was irresponsible to put the role of a parent onto myself who has no experience with kids, let alone babies. I cannot accept that responsibility and if you expect me to then I will look to seek other accommodation. "

At your age you can choose where to live.

Call CPS next time they try it.

NTA get all your stuff and move in with your grandparents. If the cops show up tell them you aren’t going back. You are 17 and supporting yourself. Get all your receipts together. If he takes it to court get a lawyer to push for delays until you are 18.

NTA, one of my oldest friends from childhood , her father used to do this all the time with his stepkids when she was a teenager. He liked to do it when he realized she had plans. It was a control maneuver. After a while she would just do but would sit there and do absolutely nothing. Just watch them cause havoc and not lift a finger. She would order food and her Dad would scream at her and she just be blank face. The day she turned 18 we partied.