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Posted by u/MajesticExpression80
28 hours ago

'AITA for not sharing my inheritance with my cousin?'

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I (32f) used to have this really cool Uncle "Bill." He and my aunt "Sarah" (55f) started dating when I was 3 and we just had this type of instant bond. I loved this guy and he spoiled me to pieces. It was a constant joke that the only reason he married my aunt was so I'd officially be his niece. He was ecstatic when my aunt Sarah became pregnant because being a dad was something that he always wanted and adored my cousin "Julie" (24f) for the first few years of her life.

Then one day while Bill was out of town, I was sleeping over and in the middle of the night I woke up to use the bathroom and heard the backdoor slam (it had a very distinct sound) I was curious and peeked out the window from the room that I was in that was overlooking the backyard. There was a man there talking to my aunt, laughing and hugging before we went away and the way that he left was not circling around to the front where the other cars would be going over the fence and I thought that was weird.

I went back to sleep and when I woke up Bill was back and without thinking I mentioned what I saw during breakfast. Sarah tried playing it off but she was weird about it. Unfortunately, that began an avalanche of mess and not only did it come out that Sarah was having an affair and Julie wasn't his, but my mom and (maternal) grandparents knew and said nothing.

There was a divorce and while Bill let Sarah have the house he knew she couldn't afford to maintain it, left the country (he had dual citizenship), and never tried to stay in contact with Julie. It was heartbreaking, I missed Bill and I was sad for my cousin so I became a target for her and Sarah's anger.

In their mind, if I hadn't of said anything Bill would've stayed. I felt so guilty about it for years that I accepted their acts of wrath in silence but when Julie hacked my email to reject my offer of admissions to my dream college and two scholarships, I just couldn't take it anymore.

There was a huge blowout between my mom and Sarah we've all beeb VLC since. Fast forward 2020 and I happen to see Bill on social media and I shoot him a message. Ironically, I was surprised that he responded and he asked about my life. We would talk for a while after that but never once brought up Julie or Sarah.

Bill never married and found out he couldn't have bio kids and I knew that was tough for him.

Unfortunately, Bill has passed away. I went to the funeral in secret just to pay my respects and then went back home. I expected nothing so I was surprised when Bill's lawyer called and told me that I was left an inheritance. I was surprised and so was Bill's ex girlfriend because she tracked me down on social media and put me on blast where all of my extended family could see and word got back to Sarah and Julie.

They think that I'm a witch and my grandparents want me to split it to keep the peace but I kinda don't want to given how they treated me AITA?

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u/Sebscreen 1h ago

Obviously NTA. Your grandparents are delusional. They did nothing to "keep the peace" when those two were trying their hardest to ruin your life, you don't owe anyone a damn thing. 


Don't dishonour Bill like this. He wanted YOU to have this inheritance, not the woman who betrayed him.

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u/DoIwantToKnow6417 6h ago

*< it come out that Sarah was having an affair and Julie wasn't his, but my mom and (maternal) grandparents knew and said nothing.>*

*<Julie hacked my email to reject my offer of admissions to my dream college and two scholarships>*

Mom, aunt and grandparents didn't care about Bill, and about the hurt they (at different levels) caused him.

Julie took her mother ruining their family out on you.

NTA

You owe these people ABSOLUTELUY NOTHING

Bill left you that money because YOU were the one that DID bring joy to his life.

Treasure your inheritance for that reason.

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u/lmmontes 6h ago

NTA in any way! Keep the money! I hope you were able to get your college acceptance and scholarship back! Regardless, do NOT share a dime of it. Especially not after what they did. They can ONLY blame your aunt. You are NTA for anything as described.

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u/Consistent-Goat1267 5h ago

NTA. She should have thought about when she was having the affair. They brought this all on themselves and they should never have blamed you in the first place. You were just the scapegoat. He was bound to find out eventually. I’m guessing your grandparents knew they treated you like crap? Did they ever try to stop it? Why didn’t they try to “keep the peace” during all the years of their abuse? You don’t owe them a penny. In fact, you’re probably the only person that deserves it.

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u/WifeofBath1984 1h ago

NTA please tell me you got things sorted with your dream uni?!? That is so devious and heart breaking!!

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u/AvgJim 7h ago

NTA. Bill wanted you to have that money, that's all that matters

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u/EKsmom 4h ago

NTA and don't share it! He left it to you for a reason. That's yours. Go completely NC with your aunt and cousin, they don't deserve to be in your life. Always remember "No" is a complete sentence.

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u/AWhiskeyKitten 1h ago

NTA- Sarah caused all her own troubles, you owe them nothing

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u/Specific_Anxiety_343 3h ago

NTA. You don’t owe them squat. Honor Bill’s wishes.

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u/slendermanismydad 2h ago

NTA. Julie isn't his kid and he left a long time ago. Sarah took advantage of him and then let her kid try to ruin your life. Where the hell was your mother? 


>when Julie hacked my email to reject my offer of admissions to my dream college and two scholarships, I just couldn't take it anymore.


Please explain what happened here because why did this person even know about your offer or scholarships? 

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u/Legitimate_Gas_8386 3h ago

NTA. Don’t give them a single cent of that money.

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u/ConfusedThunderstorm 4h ago

Sooo NTA, firstly you were a child making innocuous statements about something you saw. *You* were not the one cheating and lying to your partner about the parentage of your child.

On top of it your aunt and cousin have been downright horrible to you, they deserve no redemption.
Your cousin could've still been the innocent collateral damage if she hadn't partaken in the harrassment inflicted on you AND MESSED WITH YOUR COLLEGE ACCEPTANCE AND SCHOLARSHIP WTF! (op I'm very livid for you).

You're obviously a very nice person to even feel guilty about getting the inheritance instead of your aunt (who was horrible to you and uncle Bill) and cousin (who was horrible to you). I definitely wouldn't have.

Think of it this way, I'm sure Uncle Bill was grateful to you for pointing that out and saving him from a lie and sham of a marriage. It's not the wildest thought that he left his inheritance to you, a child he was fond of, who reached out to him later as well, and saved him from a cheater her and her family's (coz your grandparents knew) web of lies.

Enjoy the inheritance, you DEFINITELY deserve it after all you've been through.

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u/SummerOracle 7h ago

NTA.

Do not split that inheritance. To do so would dishonor Bill’s wishes, he was the only one with a right to decide where the inheritance went. Not your grandparents, not your aunt, not your cousin, not his ex-gf.

Giving any of it to your aunt and cousin would be completely against your best interests. Not to mention an insult to Bill, as your aunt betrayed him in arguably one of the worst ways possible. These people are bullies who blamed you for an adult’s inappropriate choices, as well as attempted to sabotage your future. They are not deserving of your good fortune or your consideration.

You need to stand up for yourself, and you need to not allow people like them to have power over you. You have nothing to feel guilty for, and it is not your responsibility to “keep the peace”. Your grandparents are out of line and need to teach their grown daughter accountability.

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u/2holedlikeaboss 3h ago

This can’t be real.

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u/CuppaSweetTea 6h ago

NTA. And you keep every bit of your inheritance.

You and Bill had a close relationship, independent of anything else. He couldn't have children, didn't remarry and decided to leave something to you. YOU. Not people from previous relationships.

These folks are going to hate you and call you names no matter what you do. Let 'em go honey. You don't need that toxicity in your life. You owe them nothing. You did nothing wrong. You cannot change them.

Good luck to you.

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u/BrilliantEmphasis862 7h ago

NTA in an sense - if Bill wanted to leave them $ he would have. Ignore them the best you can. They don’t sound like good family members. Good luck

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u/OldKindheartedness73 7h ago

Nta. Tell them this is karma.

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u/TheLogicWizard_7777 7h ago

No one should change the dead's intentions. No argument can be made. The dead has spoken.

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u/Chipchop666 7h ago

Bill wanted you to have the money. Why would anyone think he would leave it to his ex cheating wife ? If he wanted anyone else to inherit, it would have been in his will. You might have to go LC to NC quickly though

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u/Junior-Bear-6955 8h ago

Nta do not give these narcissists a dime. If not not just for Bill. He could have gave them some if he wanted and clearly he didn't. When everyone else was lying to him, you allowed him to find the truth. That was probably why he left you an inheritance. I personally think that it would be an insult to his memory to give these people who treated him so poorly a single cent from what you were given.

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